How To Make The Best Of Major Changes In The New Year
2016. Whoa. Not only is it a new year, but there are lots of changes that come with it. It's crazy how these new years just creep up on you out of nowhere. It's not like you didn't know it was coming. Of course you knew. But now you have to correct yourself every time you write 2015 instead of 2016 which will take about a month or two to become second nature.
And the pressure of going in with a resolution is always looming, but you feel like you have to pick something to feel productive.
I don't know about you, but every new year for me I feel like I'm starting a new adventure. Life is a roller coaster filled with unpredictable events, so instead of promising to wake up earlier or start a new diet, I prepare myself for life's inevitable challenges and the God-won't-give-you-what-you-can't-handle situations.
This year, whether I'm ready for it or not, a big adventure inevitably awaits right around the corner.
This year marks a time of significant change in my life. In a few weeks I'm moving abroad with my four-month old son to go be with his father in Uganda. As excited as I am for us all to be together, it's completely nerve-racking just thinking about all the changes we'll face. I'm sure emotionally, it will be confusing at times as I deal with the high of living my dream of having a family, but also being far away from my family here for sure will take its toll. I'm a first time mother with a small child, and I won't have my mom there to help me during the freakout moments which are sure to come (I'm a pretty realistic person if you haven't already noticed).
So what does one do to make the best of these big, exciting changes coming in the new year? Well...
Be open and honest with yourself
Sometimes the best gift you can give yourself is realness. Don't lie to yourself. No--what's coming is not going to be easy. Yes--you will be faced with challenges, and you'll want to give up. So do yourself a favor and have a little one-on-one pep talk with yourself.
Be a bit of a psychic by trying to predict some of the emotions you'll experience. Are you entering the new year with a career change? If so, then that tells you there will be moments of doubt. Taking on a new role at work means dealing with moments of discomfort as you take in new information. Know there will be times that feeling of inadequacy creeps up on you, especially when coworkers remind you of the big shoes you're filling in.
When you can imagine beforehand what you'll go through, you won't be so shocked and unprepared when these feelings surface. You'll feel prepared and a little relieved having already thought this all through.
Get over the hump
When taking on a new venture, moving forward will begin to feel like an uphill battle. It usually happens in the early phases, as the idea of what you're doing starts to overwhelm you. Sometimes it happens after you've been in it for long, and this new venture doesn't excite you anymore.
Either way, you have to figure out a way to get over the hump or else you end up stalling and never finishing what you started.
I read a blog recently that really speaks to this dilemma. The writer advises us to know our why. Before you even get started on a new project/career, you should find out why you're getting on this journey. Is it because you have something totally inspiring to offer the world, or maybe this thing will give you the peace of mind you've been looking for.
Whatever it is, figure it out and when things get tough, remind yourself of your why. Let your why be your driving force.
Dream a little
Imagine what you want from this new experience. Envision where it will take you, the person you'll become, whether you'll be more open-minded, or stronger.
Try and picture yourself doing the things you dream of, like sitting at your laptop in a foreign country working at your leisure, as you look out the window at the scenic view, inspired and in awe. Or someone reading your book, overwhelmed with emotion as they realize they, too, have the power to do something great with their life after being so inspired by your story.
Maybe you see a braver version of you doing things you never imagined. Maybe you see your future you gaining a deeper insight of who you are and what you want from life. Maybe you'll discover what you're passionate about by letting your mind run free as you look ahead and exercise your imagination. Let your dream rejuvenate you and keep you open-minded about all future possibilities.
This isn't about being religious. It's about having a daily conversation with God, yourself, or the universe. Ask for good energy, that you may be the good energy and attract it. Ask for protection and guidance, for health and strength and the wisdom to know what to do next. Ask for the tools you need to be successful and get through the rough times.
This is you not being afraid to ask for what you want. So meditate, pray, speak out loud and put good vibes and energy out in the universe. Because once you put it out there, it will always come back to you.
Remember that it's not all you. Somewhere out there, something or someone has helped you along the way, whether it's your mama or a little bit of luck. Be grateful that you have an opportunity that others only wish for... that the universe threw you a bone.. that God presented you with a chance to get out of an uncertain situation and try something new.
Sometimes we get so caught up in what we don't have that the things we have go unnoticed. But what you have now is something you once wished for. And you got it. So mind your manners and remember to give thanks. You'll be glad you did.
What are some ways you prepare for all that's to come in the new year?